Hello, Everyone. This is Chaplain Sung Kim. I am Deputy CMD CH in the 63d Readiness Division. I pray you are well.
Are you angry? It cannot be all rainbows and unicorns all the time, you agree right? Sometimes things get too out of hand and rage takes over and an anger like that can become a habit. Do you often get so irritated by everything around to the point that you want to destroy anything that comes in your way like the great, green, bulky Hulk?
Today, I’d like to talk about how you can control your anger and frustration. It is totally depend on how you respond to your situation.
Due to the coronavirus, many people are experiencing sadness, fear, anxiety and loneliness as well as anger. People may be feeling anger about deep losses related to jobs, finances, normalcy, routines, cherished activities, the health of self or loved ones, or the ability to see friends and family.
We know what anger is, and we've all felt it. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.
Viktor Frankl was a Jewish psychiatrist who spent four years in a Nazi concentration camp. He used his mission to control the anger and rage he felt at the hands of the Nazis.
Through his personal experience, Victor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.”
I want to introduce this technique that you can use in a stressful situation. When you are in stress, Stop, Take a breath by deep breathing 10 times to make a space, observe negative and positive feelings, and choose positive feelings.
You may learn this technique through Strong Bonds Training. The curriculum “The 7 habits of highly effective people” teaches us how we can be successful by having good habits. If you want to respond positively to your situations, make space between what happens to you and your response to. It is your freedom to choose that response.
There is another advice. Please ask for professional counseling if it is too difficult to control your emotion.
Ralph Emerson says that “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”
Scripture Reading: Philippians 4: 13 “I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me.”
Today’s prayer: Father, Calm My Anger, bring peace to my mind and my heart as I feel angry at the situation I am in. May I take hold of your promise that you will never leave me nor forsake me. In whatever circumstances I face that produce anger in my heart, remind me that you have not left my side and you never will. Amen.
Have a blessed day! Blood and Fire!
Here is the direct email and phone number for anyone requesting support from the 63d RD Chaplain office,
usarmy.usarc.63-rsc.list.chaplain-all-users@mail.mil
650-526-9668